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Win your year by embracing these 5 facts!

I want to preface this post by letting you know, this is not your fluffy encouragement piece. I am writing to share 5 truths you will need to embrace in order to truly win your year.

Let’s get started.

1. You will fail.

One of the biggest obstacles I see in clients and have battled with myself is the fear of failure. When we allow fear to guide our decisions, we find ourselves immobilized and stuck in a cycle of recidivism. The greatest thing you can do is to understand that failure is an inevitable part of the process with any venture, but our ability to bounce back is what sets us up to win big.

The truth of moving beyond a failure is that we never start all over again. We are starting from the point of our last achievement, with the added bonus of our last experience. When it comes to failure, think of it as a stepping stone toward your next big win. The harder you play, the higher the stakes! In order to win big, you have to be okay with big risks.

2. You will never be perfect.

I know that you want to wait until you have perfected everything and overcome every flaw imaginable before you move forward but, that’ll never happen. Allow yourself the grace to evolve as you learn and trust that who you are is enough.

Perfection is not realistic, but progress is. Set measures in place to help you to soberly assess your progress in the areas that matter to you. You’ll be surprised how much you forget to celebrate when you’re busy criticizing yourself.

3. You can’t control the future.

There is no amount of planning that will ensure you are adequately prepared for everything that comes your way. And you know what? That’s okay.

Learn to trust your instincts and to prepare from a place of faith and not anxiety. Be adamant about the result but flexible with the process. For example, as you begin working on workout goals in the coming year; you’ll begin to see that you have more energy at a totally different time of day than you planned for previously. Alternatively, a change in your job or hours may require you to make some decisions you didn’t have to before.

Life is always evolving, it’s in your best interest to learn to evolve along with it and adjust your expectations according to your current reality.

4. You are your greatest asset.

Goals are great, but if you are not at your best; you cannot produce your best. Everything you create will be from the surplus or deficit of the state of your soul. How well you take care of your mind, body and soul will dictate how well you execute all the things you want to accomplish.

Learn to listen to your body and cater to its needs. Determine to know yourself well enough to assess when you need refreshing, rest or increased discipline respectively. Do what you need to do so that you can be who you were born to be. Take care of you, the world needs you at your best, water drinking, well rested, spiritually rejuvenated self.

5. Your dreams don’t matter until you work them.

Listen, as a fellow dreamer I totally get it! I live in my head and I’m always overflowing with great ideas and innovations that I want to run into with full force. Dreaming is noble but action is imperative. The key to progress is focus, discipline and a goal that sets you on fire! If you are not passionate about it and convinced that it’s a worthwhile venture, you will likely forfeit it at the first sign of opposition.

If you are likely to procrastinate and get deterred, ensure that you have accountability partners in place to keep you focused.

I hope you’ve found this post helpful! As a reward for reading until the end, I want to offer you a complimentary strategy session to help you win your year in a real way!

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Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing!

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Inspiration Poetry

Life and death…

The beauty of death is silence

Every version of her, now deceased eulogizes the remnant that remains

The beauty of death is silence

The slow fading of a heartbeat, slower, softer, weaker, gone.

The beauty of death is silence.

For when we have died, crucifying the past and resurrecting the truth of who we are – life begins.

Wanting, hoping, stronger, faster.

The beauty of life is sound, to hear and be heard. To love and be loved. To understand and be understood.

Death is for those who are done. She was.

I’m not.

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Christian Faith God Inspiration

The truth about transition.

The world around us is constantly changing, our lives are no exception. Let’s talk about transition, we all go through it!

Meaning:

a change from one form or type to another, or the process by which this happens: (dictionary.cambridge.org)

the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another. (google search)

Hebrew words for transition:

  1. The first word for transition is ma’avar, which means to “cross over,” to “pass through” (as in a land or city) or even to overflow (cf. Isaiah 23:10, who speaks of passing through a land “as a stream”) In the word, ma’avar, I see the word, me-avar or “from the past.” We are nurtured by our past relationships with communities, and by their pasts which become a part of us
  2. shinui, which literally means “change
  3. chiluf, which means to “move on” in the way that the grasses sprout anew after the old sproutings have dried up and passed away.

 

Signs you’re in transition:

  • Relationship changes (breakups and broken friendships/betrayal)
  • Spiritual attack & mind battles, usually marked with thoughts of inadequacy and fear
  • Lack of interest in daily activities
  • Possible depression, mood swings & irritability
  • The feeling that there is just “something missing”
  • This nagging awareness that there is just something more

PHASE 1: EARLY (LATENT) LABOR/THe process

The first of the three stages of labor is usually the longest, but (thankfully) it’s also the least intense, by far.

During this phase, we experience sporadic periods of discomfort.

Spiritually, this can manifest itself in bouts of emotional strain and exhaustion. Because the process is not necessarily swift, it will require great adjustment and spiritual awareness. Understanding that you are in a season of transition is vital, with that knowledge you are now equipped to do the most difficult thing this process requires – wait. As with a natural pregnancy, you are  expected to wait in anticipation that something will be birthed from your process. That is the faith God wants us to have in Him, so that in our waiting there is preparation for the promise!

PHASE 2: ACTIVE LABOR

You’ll usually be in the hospital or birthing center by this phase (or if you’re delivering at home, your midwife should be with you by now).

Active labor is sometimes excruciatingly painful. Both in the natural and in the spirit, this phase is preparing you for the release that is coming. You are adjusting and getting into position to ensure that your next phase goes well. You are being stretched to capacity so that safe passage of what you are carrying is ensured and you give birth to the promise you have awaited for so long!

PHASE 3: TRANSITIONAL (ADVANCED) LABOR

During transitional labor — the last, most intensive phases of labor —fortunately, it’s also the shortest.

GET IT OUT!!! The urgency of this phase is incomparable at any other state of the process – it’s time to release! You have nurtured, prepared and positioned yourself for the release of what’s in you. Then, and only then are you able to PUSH your destiny out!

How do I not go crazy during a season of transition?

  • Don’t be afraid: Joshua 1:9 ESV Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

Don’t doubt in the dark, what God told you in the light: Ecclesiastes 7:8-11 ESV Better is the end of a thing than its beginning, and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit. Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools. Say not, “Why were the former days better than these?” For it is not from wisdom that you ask this. Wisdom is good with an inheritance, an advantage to those who see the sun.

  • Don’t try to guess your way through: Proverbs 3:5 ESV Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
  • The work was prepared before you were: Ephesians 2:10ESV For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them
  • Stay confident! God wants it more than you: 1 John 5:14ESV And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us.

It’s not about you: 2 Corinthians 1:4-9 ESV Who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too. If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer. Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort. For we do not want you to be ignorant, brothers, of the affliction we experienced in Asia. For we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself.

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Inspiration

Embracing Womanhood after Motherhood

Motherhood is a choice every woman has but womanhood is something every woman should master. Women have always had to overcome misogynist views on our role in society and our value. Nobody gets to tell you how to be who you were born to be unless they are the one who created you.

As a mother of three very unique, very amazing, strong willed, witty, hilarious and amazing little girls – the need to be all of who I am is magnified. I recognized that whether I intend to or not, I am modeling what womanhood looks like before their eyes. I want to share with you some ways I keep myself accountable to my womanhood so that I can be my entire self while teaching my daughters to do the same.

  1. Let ALL of you show up

It can be tempting to try to compress yourself into bite sized pieces so that you are not ‘too much’ for people. Baby, let them choke. If who you authentically are is too much for the room, find the door. Yes, use wisdom and make decisions under the leading of Holy Spirit but do not confuse adapting to the culture of a place temporarily with shrinking back out of fear that who you are is not acceptable. There are doors that can only be unlocked by you living your truth.

2. Learn who you are NOW

Many of us are guilty of building lives based on expired blueprints. Who you were before you squeezed little humans out of your pelvis or adopted them… is not the same woman you are now. Be intentional about learning who you are now and what it takes for you to be whole in your current season. Spa days and brunches may still be valid, but perhaps your circle needs updating. You won’t know what needs updating until you take a moment to pause, assess and adjust.

You deserve a life that works for you and brings you joy.

3. Drop it like it’s hot!

Aht aht! Pick your booty up off the floor, we’ll get to that later.

Make a detailed list of all the organizations you are a part of, all the services you render weekly, all of the things you once agreed to but are no longer committed to or passionate about. Ask the Lord to direct you as you drop what is no longer relevant to His plan for you so that you can focus on building a life that brings Him glory and does not leave you depleted.

Chronic exhaustion is not your portion sugar; drop it LIKE IT’S HOTTTTT!

4. Now.. DROP IT LIKE IT’S HOT fr fr

Remember those random things you did that had you belly laughing? Remember dancing around the house while you cleaned, or reading that juicy novel while laying across the bed? I may have been reminiscing a bit, forgive me.

What brings YOU joy? What do you enjoy doing? Make time for those things; they refresh and revive you so that you can show up refreshed and recharged.

Now, whether that is twirling around to your favorite 90’s album, a quiet bath with some candles or organizing your closet (I’m not judging); just ensure that your to-do list includes things that you enjoy.

5. Align your life!

I left this one for last because it is THE KEY to embracing womanhood after motherhood. When we submit our lives to the will of God and bring it into alignment; we are endowed with the grace to be who we truly are while we do what needs to get done.

My relationship with the Lord is what anchors me in my decision making. Holy Spirit reminds me to take moments of refreshing for myself. He convicts me when I am coming out of alignment, getting distracted, lazy or complacent. He keeps me accountable when I am shrinking back out of insecurity. He is my resource when I feel jealous of someone else; because I know that means I have the wrong perspective of myself and of His plans for me.

The beauty of womanhood is that it is unique to us all and we can all do it well though we will all do it differently. Your children will reap the benefit of a mother who is a whole woman, standing in her feminine authority and power.

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Inspiration

Black girl in therapy…

Yesterday I started therapy. I hated every moment of vulnerability I was subjected to but I knew it was necessary for me. It was time I took back the power of my life’s narrative and dictate exactly who I am and what my life will be. However, deep down in my well seasoned Caribbean soul is this nagging guilt that I’ve failed. Somehow, my need for professional help made me weak. I just knew that what I had tried in the past, wasn’t working.

I couldn’t snap out of it. I could no longer pretend that cycles of depression were just a part of life. I could no longer pretend that there aren’t moments I feel as if I am drowning in a sea of my own turmoil. I could no longer hide my dysfunction in praying it through, when I know the Lord Himself directed me to process things fully with the therapist I chose. For me, I chose a strong black woman; a mother and wife whose soul is postured to heal the broken and bridge the gap between science and spirituality. I love her spirit and I am determined to fall in love with the discomfort, pain and weight of this journey.

I have come to realize that in order to be who I truly am meant to be; I have to uproot everything that’s not. I have to face the lies I have believed about myself and expose them to the light of accountability. My journey looks like prayer, praise and therapy – what’s yours going to be?

Listen, you can keep your pain and your pride or you can gain healing and true self confidence. You may not need therapy, but whatever you need; whatever your soul is longing for to help you heal – run after it!

Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing!

-Black girl in therapy

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Inspiration Personal Experiences

Spilled milk…

Guess what ? 

Disappointment happens. None of us is exempt. However, there is a way to shift your focus that can help you bounce back a lot sooner!

We often allow disappointments to stall our progress because we view failures as an identity rather than a stepping stone. Failing doesn’t make you a failure – if that were the case, many of the greatest minds we admire would not have gotten where they are.

So, here’s the question – are you letting spilled milk spoil your appetite? Are you allowing the fact that something didn’t work to convince you that nothing will?!  Well, I’ve got good news for you – you can still win!

The disappointment you may be facing is not the end, it’s just a starting point.

Feeling stuck? Watch this video!

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Inspiration

Drowning?

Have you ever felt like you were drowning, and everyone else rode the waves of your frantic splashing?

I have.

In those moments, I’m grateful that God sees me even when nobody else does.

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Inspiration

Lonely Heart ❤️

“Don’t surrender your loneliness so quickly. Let it cut you more deep. Let it ferment and season you as few humans and even divine ingredients can. Something missing in my heart tonight has made my eyes so soft, my voice so tender, my need for God absolutely clear.”

– Hafiz

ShaKeisha Johnson, author of 100 days of singleness.

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Inspiration

Summer seafood salad!

Crab salad is a staple here in The Bahamas, especially at get togethers and social gatherings. I’ve always shredded mine until I tasted one where the meat was diced instead…. I was shook you hear me??? I made some and added a little crawfish for good measure because it’s my fave!

It was soooo good I had to try it myself.

Do you see how yummy and fresh that looks? I wanted some color so the red and yellow peppers I needed to use from my fridge were the perfect addition. If you’re looking for a yummy, fresh summer salad this is it!

Here’s the recipe ⬇️⬇️⬇️

Ingredients:

1/2 lb imitation crab meat

2 small crawfish tails(boiled and removed from shell)

1/4 onion diced

1/4 red & yellow peppers diced

2 tbs Mayo

Juice of 1 1/2 lime

Combine all ingredients and mix well. Enjoy!

I ate mine in a wrap with shredded romaine lettuce but feel free to enjoy it however you want!

Be sure to drop a pic if you’ve tried it and let me know what you think 🤗

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“Don’t forget you’re in a war…”

I would have begun writing this at 4:54 am eastern time. An hour before, I sat crying on the couch just feeling incredibly invisible and invaluable. In a stark and disturbing contrast to last weekend where I experienced the glory of God and felt such peace.

Where did it go?

Where did my resolve to be who He’s called me to be and do what He’s called me to do, go all of a sudden? I recognized right in that moment the plan of the enemy. I remembered something one of our senior pastors said in his sermon last Sunday “we forget that we are in a war”. The entire time I’ve been trying to figure out my feelings, I’ve been going about it all wrong.

After aimlessly searching emotions; I asked God “show me what’s at work behind the scenes”. As plain as day, I saw the plan of the enemy to distract me and to toss me into a vacuum of fear, disappointment and depression. See, if my emotions are in charge; that means God isn’t. This saint to say that somehow I’m supposed to be an emotionless robot. Instead, it says that God can handle everything I’m feeling and thinking. When I lay my emotions at His feet, I’m able to sort through what’s real and what’s a weapon against my purpose and His plan.

Don’t forget that we are in a war. We are fighting for our families, our marriages, our relationships, our futures, finances and our children! There is as much of an assignment against you as there is for you. Luckily for us, the God who set the assignment for us is infinitely more powerful than the fraud who’s plotting against us.

Satan lives in deception; his desire is to deceive you into questioning God’s sovereign knowledge of your identity and purpose as he did with Eve. Eve had no idea the weight of her decision in the garden, no idea that it would literally impact all humanity. The enemy tricked her into believing that the very thing God warned her against was “no big deal” and in doing so – undermined God’s plan for her to live peaceably and without pain.

When God gives and instruction and we give way to the thought process that says “did He REALLY say….” then we have effectively given ear to the enemy. We have begun a line of questioning that is deceptive enough to convince us that we know better than God does. We somehow believe the lie that God doesn’t care or doesn’t understand; even when our very own experiences prove that to be untrue.

I’ve said all that to say this; fight for your life!!! Fight for your identity and the very essence of God’s sovereignty in every facet of your existence. God does care. God does know what’s happening. His word still stands. Trust and obey God behind what you feel. I know I will! It’s easier to fight when you’re guaranteed a win.

It won’t always be easy, but you’ll always be victorious.

Live light, love God, be blessed.

– Coach Keish

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Faith God God Inspiration Personal Experiences

When the lights go out…

It’s nighttime, the kids are in bed; Hubby’s asleep but will probably say he was resting his eyes once he wakes up. You’re all alone, just you and Jesus.

Who are you now?

I ask myself this periodically, to see if I’m still aware of me. Lately, I recognized that I’ve simply been reacting to the world around me for some time. Instead of asking Holy Spirit what He wants me to do with my days, I’ve been fumbling around and taking him for the ride. He’s been a passenger in the relationship He should’ve been piloting.

I ask myself again, in this moment; who are you Keisha?

Are you living up to your life’s mission of changing the world one heart at a time or have you been changed by your circumstances? Have you been a thermostat or a thermometer?

If I’m being honest, I forgot to be who I am. It’s an easy thing to do when the busyness of life sets in and you’re caught up being who they need. It may not be a husband and kids for you, it may be your boss at work, ministry life or even your parents. But… whatever you’re busy doing, make time to be you.

Fulfilling your reason for being has to be your utmost priority. No amount of accomplishment outside of God’s divine purpose will suffice.

When the lights go out, who are you?

Goodnight.