On the cusp of our sixth month of marriage, I began reflecting on the question I’m most often asked “How did you know he was the one?”. Now, as fairytales would have it… you’d think it was this magical tingly feeling that made me want to be with him forever. You’d be wrong. I sure was. 

I’m going to give you three of the reasons I said yes to the man of my prayers. 
1. He takes his directives from God 

I knew that he would make decisions based on the voice of God, and as a believer in Christ… this mattered to me most. While I have my own relationship with God, I was all too familiar with dating someone who didn’t value having one of their own. I wanted a life that embodied biblical principals and I needed a leader for my home who would be able to ensure this was a reality. He fit the bill! 

2. He is the most beautiful chocolate man on the planet! 

Honey, color me shallow but spending the rest of my life with someone I’m physically attracted to was on my “no compromise” list. And this man… whew! 

Before I knew his credentials, his aesthetic was pleasing. I didn’t place it as number one because it truly isn’t THE most important thing to me. But honey, it does matter. Don’t settle, it’s possible for you to marry a godly man who you’re actually attracted to. 

3. He’s responsible & consistent 

Coming into my marriage as a single mother, I was very concerned about consistency. I was able to marry this man, because he’s responsible. He paid his bills on time, he prioritized needs over desires and there’s never a time he says he’ll show up and doesn’t. Those may not be the sexiest traits to you, but they sure make for a great husband. 
Now… don’t get me wrong. I am absolutely in love with my husband and absolutely adored by him in return. But we didn’t make our decision solely on how we felt. There’s much more to it, but those three were my main reasons for the curious amongst us. I guess after writing a book on Singleness. I have to expect that people wanna know how I made the transition.