Hey my love,

You have probably read lots of content on how to be a wife, how to be a great friend but what about how to be… you? One of the main things I learned during my 100 days of singleness journey was who I am.

It is imperative that we are able to clearly articulate and fully understand who we are in Christ before we try to find who we are supposed to marry.

Ask yourself these 3 questions:

1. Without my job, relationship, family history or physical attributes; who am I?
2. What is it that I am on the earth to accomplish?
3. Who am I here to serve and how?

It’s okay if you get stuck, the journey to self discovery is a long one; asking the hard questions is the first step. Believe me, I can relate.

God has such a sense of humor, choosing me of all people to minister to the broken, lost and rejected of this generation.

Truth be told – I still have to remind myself that I am worth sticking around for, worth loving, worth cherishing.

Those moments I think back to twelve year old me waiting for my dad to show up… They remind me how desperately I needed a savior and it wasn’t my dad. I would have liked my dad to grab me and tell me how beautiful and amazing I was, it would have been great to understand that before now.

However, that’s not my reality. This scar, has become my testimony. This memory of a trampled and rejected heart drives me desperately to the presence of God and His presence makes everything okay. His gentle and sometimes urgent reminders of who I am, make my life worth living and my soul rejoice – my dad is cool but I know he can’t do that for me. It’s like, in some strange way, my father taught me that I don’t need his acceptance or his love to be great… I appreciate that.

My method used to be pretending I didn’t feel rejected at all….
which — didn’t work out very well. But God loves and accepts us in a way that overrides everything! His love is all consuming and never leaves! Whew! Do you feel that? Holy Spirit just embraced you to remind you that you’re amazing and deserve to be loved and you are loved  – Jesus thinks you’re to die for! Get it? Okay sorry for that… Here’s a consolation prize:

This song by Jason Gray reminds me when I forget, so I hope it does the same for you!

Hope you enjoyed your first tip; there’s 3 more that you are going to love!