Letter to the single mom… 

Dear beautiful, After having my daughter, I felt like I didn’t deserve God’s grace because of what I’d done. My virginity was this treasure I kept; it set me apart and made me special now it was gone. I felt worthless and finished.  The open shame of my secret sin and the public evidence ofContinue reading “Letter to the single mom… “

Don’t call him my stepdad….

Many complications have risen from me saying “my daddy” and having to specify… But I could never get behind calling the man who raised me and loved me and sacrificed for me – my stepdad.  Yes, some say a step dad steps in but mine didn’t. He came running to my rescue, running to loveContinue reading “Don’t call him my stepdad….”

To the other women…

I’m so sorry that I blamed you for the men that cheated.

I’m sorry that I called out your promiscuity rather than my own fear and insecurity.

I’m sorry that I was just another source of pain for you, that I allowed my own hurt to cut you with my words.

The other daughter…

I’m the other daughter. I’m the one that didn’t happen to be born in the cocoon of a happy marriage as my other siblings and I underwent a much more complex developmental process. I’m the “awkward situation” we dare not discuss, subject to statements like “Oh I didn’t know he had a daughter this old”.Continue reading “The other daughter…”

99 cent love

His love was cheap Like a bright red sign that alluded to a great purchase only to leave you with a knockoff version of what you truly wanted He spoke of a love that he couldn’t show It was tender, caring and deceptive It was a love that lent it’s kindness to a soul inContinue reading “99 cent love”

So you think you’re the one?! (Day 37 – 100 Days of Singleness)

Most people LOVE the chase… A person will pursue you to the ends of the earth just for the thrill of the chase. We have to be careful not to mistake persistence with destiny. Not everyone that desires you, deserves you. A man that isn’t led by God should not be expected to lead you.Continue reading “So you think you’re the one?! (Day 37 – 100 Days of Singleness)”

No more locked doors!!! – Pursuing Purity (Day 26 – 100 Days of Singleness)

I know he/ she is no good for me but… Stop right there! Anything that follows this phrase is a sorry excuse of a reason to stay and you know it. I know as the song says, “he ain’t no good but it feels so good”. I know and have experienced the pleasure of sin,Continue reading “No more locked doors!!! – Pursuing Purity (Day 26 – 100 Days of Singleness)”