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Letter to the single mom… 

Dear beautiful,

After having my daughter, I felt like I didn’t deserve God’s grace because of what I’d done. My virginity was this treasure I kept; it set me apart and made me special
now it was gone. I felt worthless and finished. 
The open shame of my secret sin and the public evidence of it proved to be burdensome. I was ultimately avoiding love because I didn’t deserve it!

I wasn’t different anymore, I wasn’t special. I assumed God was like man, I assumed I had to earn His love and that failing Him meant He didn’t love me anymore. I couldn’t be more wrong! 

This very open shame proved to be a very public blessing. This treasure I gave birth to, is a great part of the reason I sought restoration. 

Fornication is wrong, there’s no excuse for it or pardoning of it by any means. But, if you’re a screw up like me that needs grace, and you desire to be pure and to give God all that’s left of you – do it! You’re not too dirty, you’re not used up, those stretch marks and that C-section scar do not mean a thing to the lover of your soul. 

You don’t have to live your life punishing yourself. Let God restore you, let Him heal those broken places and give your life and the life of the blessing(s) you bore over to Him and watch Him give you beauty for your ashes! 

My journey to wholeness began with 100 Days of Singleness, you can order the book HERE!


Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing! 

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Don’t call him my stepdad….

Many complications have risen from me saying “my daddy” and having to specify… But I could never get behind calling the man who raised me and loved me and sacrificed for me – my stepdad. 

Yes, some say a step dad steps in but mine didn’t. He came running to my rescue, running to love me and to bring me flinstones vitamins and McDonald’s. He came running to stick around for me when things got rough. He came running to be my hero, before I ever recognized him as such. He came running when I was in trouble and my mother was ready to shut things down. He came running because I was his princess, to him – I’m too smart to make mistakes. In his eyes I’m too good of a girl to do anything wrong.:. And though his perception is one I have seldom lived up to, I now see how valuable he is. 

He loved me so well, nobody ever questioned whether he was my real dad. He loves me, to this day with everything he has and I never feel like my thank you is enough. I don’t feel like my “I love you daddy” adequately states what my soul really means when I say it.

Thank you for accepting me.

Thank you for choosing to love me.

Thank you for making sacrifices for me, those I know about and those I don’t. 

Thanks for being there whether I had a lizard that scared me or a little girl growing in my belly that did. 

Thank you; not for stepping in but for running to my rescue. 

Thank you for being my hero.

I love you daddy! 

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To the other women…

I’m so sorry that I blamed you for the men that cheated.

I’m sorry that I called out your promiscuity rather than my own fear and insecurity.

I’m sorry that I was just another source of pain for you, that I allowed my own hurt to cut you with my words.

I’m sorry that I called you a whore, a slut and any other derogatory term just because I needed someone else to hurt as badly as I did.

I’m sorry that I didn’t acknowledge you were hurting too.

I’m sorry that instead of realizing our similarity, the fact that we both responded to a broken heart wrongly… I called out our differences in an attempt to make myself feel superior.

It didn’t work.

Can I be honest? I’m sorry that at some point,I became you!

Please forgive me for not being brave enough to leave. Forgive me for blaming you for my insecurities. I looked at you and you were just a reminder of what I thought to be my truth… I’m not enough, I never will be.

But can I tell you something?

You are beautiful! You don’t have to settle because of what you wrongly believe about yourself; allow your creator to show you who you really are! Don’t cheapen yourself to be more appealing to those who mean you no good. Don’t devalue what God has deemed priceless! You are worth God’s only begotten son! You’re the only one that doesn’t know your worth!

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
– Psalm 139:14

Step into your truth, I don’t pity you nor do I envy you. I love you, I want you to be healed as my God is healing me; I want you to be set free! I want the last time to be the last time you settle for sloppy seconds, stolen moments and cold shoulders.
God is waiting on your hurt so He can heal you. He’s waiting on you to face the truth; His truth of who you are!

Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

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The other daughter…

I’m the other daughter. I’m the one that didn’t happen to be born in the cocoon of a happy marriage as my other siblings and I underwent a much more complex developmental process.

I’m the “awkward situation” we dare not discuss, subject to statements like “Oh I didn’t know he had a daughter this old”. When they said the first would be last, I didn’t think this was what they meant. I felt last, out of place, insignificant and like an inconvenience my parents should have avoided.

I was wrong.

I had based my entire sense of self worth on this ideal of my father when I was younger, so when I met him… Reality paled in comparison. I’m thinking I had watched “Annie” one too many times and expected him to fall in love with me instantly then break into a rendition of ‘tomorrow, tomorrow, I love ya tomorrow, you’re only a day away’! Unfortunately that didn’t happen, but it would have been cool wouldn’t it?

I can give you statistics and I can divulge a slew of information regarding how many of us are “the other daughter” but it wouldn’t be very helpful. We don’t need statistics to show us what we experience everyday. Numbers just don’t matter when something is hurting you, statistics can’t calculate the pain of feeling rejected.

Here’s the bright side….
You don’t need anyone to value you, for you to be valuable.

When you serve the Lord and you surrender your heart to Him, there’s a peace that overtakes you that people can’t understand. Every pain you’ve felt, begins to have a purpose. You’re not defined by your past or your pain because of His promises.

Nobody, not even your parents have the right to devalue you either by word or deed. God already esteemed you and called you blessed! You were woven in purpose and are a testament of his love for humanity, because now the pain you’ve endured has made you so strong that you love so fearlessly… You change the world around you!

I’m the other daughter, a woman of purpose power and strength. I was predestined by God to be used as an instrument of His love, to share my story and impact the lives of broken women.

I am strong.
I am healed.
I am whole.

Who are you?

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99 cent love

His love was cheap
Like a bright red sign that alluded to a great purchase only to leave you with a knockoff version of what you truly wanted
He spoke of a love that he couldn’t show
It was tender, caring and deceptive
It was a love that lent it’s kindness to a soul in need, but never rooted deep enough or long enough to spring forth new life
He gave me that 99 cent love
Just shy of a dollar and worth much less
I sought it with fervor and he dangled the misconception before me like that little black dress on the clearance rack that was just one size too small!
Stuck with the decision of leaving “good enough” behind never knowing if the perfect fit was out there
He gave that 99 cent love
Just shy of a dollar but worth much less
Good enough just wasn’t good enough for her anymore
She wanted the perfect fit.

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So you think you’re the one?! (Day 37 – 100 Days of Singleness)

Most people LOVE the chase… A person will pursue you to the ends of the earth just for the thrill of the chase.

We have to be careful not to mistake persistence with destiny. Not everyone that desires you, deserves you.

A man that isn’t led by God should not be expected to lead you. A mate that serves God should be one thing you do not compromise on.
There will be LOTS of potential spouses that claim to be sent by God… Lots. God will give you the spirit of discernment and for the most part you can rely on your intuition.

God will not send a spouse that pulls you away from Him.

The problem is most people want a spouse that’s godly enough to be faithful to them but not godly enough to be faithful to God by remaining pure.

So. They think they’re the one huh? Pull back and observe until God gives you confirmation, you’ll be surprised at what the Spirit shows you about a seemingly great potential spouse.

Keep seeking God, let whoever is trying to get to you… Go through Him!

Love a little. Love a lot. Be a blessing!
– Shakeisha M.

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No more locked doors!!! – Pursuing Purity (Day 26 – 100 Days of Singleness)

I know he/ she is no good for me but…

Stop right there! Anything that follows this phrase is a sorry excuse of a reason to stay and you know it.

I know as the song says, “he ain’t no good but it feels so good”. I know and have experienced the pleasure of sin, so for all of us that have; let’s take a look at this:
Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 NASB)

This is the first we have addressed sexual immorality, only because establishing relationship with God was paramount and of utmost importance. A part of committing to God is relinquishing our former ways that are displeasing to our savior.

We are connected to those we allow into our bodies, it’s more than a physical exchange of pleasure … It’s a spiritual fusing of spirits that was designated for marriage. We have to commit to purity, to living up to the standard of Christ. It doesn’t matter if you’ve had 1 or 1,000 partners! All that matters is repentance and seeking God’s deliverance from the sin itself and from those our souls are tied to! Sexual sins go against God and our own bodies and no matter how the media may portray it as some frivolous act, it’s not! It’s not to be taken lightly and we aren’t to be taking part in it outside of marriage.

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own?

Do you not know???

We cannot give our spirit to God and our bodies to the world. It won’t work.

We declare release from immorality! We come against the lust of this flesh and heed to the spirit of God and we WILL answer God’s call to holiness and be sustained by His Holy Spirit. We declare freedom! We declare holiness! In the name of Jesus!!!

God be with you always my loves and until next time;

Live a little, love a lot & be a blessing
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Truth About Me Conference

Truth About Me Conference

I planned and hosted my first conference this past Friday (Feb 21st 2014) and this one of the photos capturing the event.